The Bridge

It’s hard to accept that you will never achieve the perfect realization of your dream or vision.

A topic I’ve found myself discussing frequently this last week is how it’s difficult to get yourself going towards a goal or action when you want to achieve that goal or execute that action perfectly.

You can end up spending years plotting your startup and never do anything about it because “you aren’t quite ready yet.”

One of the conversations I had with a friend recently revolved around that issue and the question of when enough would be enough. The outcome of the conversation was a fairly simple metaphor: “You’ve been waiting for this boat to get closer so you can jump to it from the one you’re on, but it’s gotten so close that now it’s just incremental. You had two big barriers to entry and they’re both gone. Now the boat is within a few feet, easy jumping distance, and every day it’s only getting a few centimeters closer. It will never get right up next to you… Just jump already.”

Of course not everyone wants to jump from one boat in life to another, but that’s different. If you don’t want to jump, don’t! But accept that you don’t. No sense in looking longingly at the other boat wishing you “could” – you always can, but you have to decide to pursue it or let it go.

Another great conversation recently revolved around artists and led to this quote: “an artist is a person who can accept the difference between what they see in their head and what they create. Most people who say they’re not an artist can’t accept that difference.”

I’d say the same rule applies to a lot of things. If you want something you have to be able to accept that it will never be as you imagined… Not exactly anyway. continue reading…